More friends leaving big group chats

Lately I’m seeing more people quietly archiving WhatsApp and Discord groups and moving to 1:1 DMs — what’s pushing that shift for you? In the past two weeks three of my chats went dark, including a 120-person local cycling group, and I’m trying to figure out whether it’s burnout, privacy worries, or just too much noise.

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I switched my big WhatsApp/Discord groups to “Only @mentions” and let people know I’d check in weekly; it kills the “too much noise” without ghosting. If folks don’t use mentions responsibly, I move the practical stuff to a DM and keep the group muted.

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